|I Corinthians 13:11 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child, I loved like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.
The ways we experience, expect love and show love as children ought to change as we progress through life and obtain understanding about what real love is. In addition to that, I believe there is a need not just to understand the standard of love, but to understand that each person experiences love and expresses love differently and becoming educated and aware of how love is best given and received from individual to individual is also part of the maturing process we can and should embrace as we strive to “prefer one another above ourselves” as Scripture encourages. Romans 12:10 tells us, “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” I am only devoted to my husband and children in love if I understand how they feel and experience loveand seek to love them in that way.Love is truly a language, and each of us speaks it differently. In Christian author, Dr. Gary Chapman’s book, The Five Love Languages, he identifies five different love languages. I will list them for you with a short description. To find out your love language, visit http://www.5lovelanguages.com/.WORDS OF AFFIRMATION.
Some people doubt if love for them is real unless they hear words of compliment or appreciation. They need encouragement to be able to relax and rest in their own accomplishment.QUALITY TIME.
Feelings take time to express. Having someone look you in the eye, nod their head and interject thoughts to show they are listening, all of these are part of quality time. Does a spouse or children you love need a special afternoon, a date night, or some minutes each day where they can share what is going on in their hearts and lives with you and have your undivided attention?
ACTS OF SERVICE.
Our willingness to love is really measured by our willingness to learn to speak the language of those we love.
God has put it on my heart to address three expressions in our culture that don’t exactly line up with
Matthew 7 “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be